Thursday, March 19, 2009

Here we go

Alright folks, as you can see, the blog is finally up. Sorry it took so long, but we've had a few other things on our minds in the past few weeks.

We are setting this up to keep you - our friends and family (and anyone we don't know who might have a morbid fascination with things like this) - updated as to Jana's condition and generally, how things are going. Jana will probably be doing most of the writing, but I will likely chime in fairly often as well. We probably won't be updating every day, but work is slow, so you never know. We'll also be making it a bit more pretty with pictures, a different background and numerous other enhancements (as we figure them out).

Please feel free to leave any comments/questions for either of us here as well. We want to hear from all of you, and talk to you about what is going on, but I am afraid we might not have the time to get back to each of you individually.

First, let me say thank you to everyone for your heartfelt wishes, prayers and offers of assistance. They really help more than you know. Since the diagnosis, we have been on a roller coaster trying to process everything that's happening and your words of encouragement have helped both of us deal with this. As for the assistance, while we haven't imposed on you too much yet, get ready. I am quite sure we will need as much help as we can get in the coming weeks and months. So enjoy your Spring Breaks - we're putting you to work when you get back.

Second, for those of you who don't know the specifics yet, Jana has been diagnosed with Type 2, Stage 2 Breast Cancer in her right breast. She also has a tumor in her Lymph Nodes. After consulting with a vast array of fantastic doctors and surgeons (both locally and in Houston at MD Anderson) - we finally have a treatment plan in place and will move forward in the next few weeks implementing that plan. We have been told by every one of our doctor's that the type of cancer she has is the most common and the treatment standards in place will help ensure that she will be healthy and cancer free in a little less than a year.

As of now, Jana is scheduled for surgery in mid-April. One question we have been hearing a lot is "Why surgery before chemo?" We have been assured that no matter which you do first, it doesn't impact the outcome. Most issues arise when people delay treatment too long because they can't make a decision on which to do first. We simply chose this option.

Third, we have told Georgia what is going on. She is understandably scared for her mom, but she also knows mommy will get better and will be healthy.

As a side note: Thank you to the parents of one of Georgia's school mates for telling your child that Jana had breast cancer. You really helped push up our time frame for how WE wanted to tell our child. I guess you didn't understand that kids that age try to one up eachother at every turn and brag about what they know. I am sure it helped soften the blow coming from someone she knows at school instead of her parents. I bet you are the parents who already told your child about Santa and the Easter Bunny too. Perhaps next time you should just say - "Oh that's too bad - we need to make sure Georgia is OK and really be her friend right now." Your child does not need to get their medical degree this early.

Finally, we really want to be back in our house when the treatments start and it's starting to look like that may happen. Again, for those of you who don't know, we decided to enact our own local stimulus plan and put an addition on our house. Since our plan actually puts people to work, we feel really good about it, but it has taken much longer than anticipated. The timing thing really didn't matter before - but now we are in hurry up mode get the sucker done.

That's it for now, but keep checking for updates.

Again, thank you all for helping us out. It means so much to us both.

P.J.

12 comments:

  1. Thinking about you both! Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers and am so glad you set this up so that I can keep up with how you both are. Much Love - JOY

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  2. Dear Jana and P.J.

    This came as a huge shock to Geoffrey and me. Not sure if it's good or bad to be out of the LFCDS loop, but we do want to help when you need us! In the meantime, we know you can beat this and will pray for easy treatments. Love, Laura and Geoffrey

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  3. Jana -
    I've been thinking of you since I heard the news. We are home and available if there is anything we can do to help. I saw Steven the other day and asked to peek at the addition. I couldn't believe it!! It's gorgeous and I can't wait to see you all moving back in. I look forward to your full recovery very soon. Please don't hesitate to call.
    All our love,
    Amy, John, Ali, Margaret & A.J. Davidson

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  4. Hi Jana and P.J.
    Thanks for the update. I'm sure you're somewhat relieved that a plan is in place, but also anxious about what lies ahead. We are here to help out in any way we can. We're thinking and praying for you. Hugs! Kara

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  5. Kate & Yaz KrehbielMarch 27, 2009 at 5:16 PM

    Hi Jana and P.J., wow we just heard this news when we saw your email about the blog. We are on your team and thinking of you! A good friend here in CA just finished treatment for Lymphoma and is now cancer free she had lots of support and a friend put together a web site where people could sign up to bring a meal or pick up kids for a playdate. Its called Lots helping hands http://www.lotsahelpinghands.com I wish our hands were closer and we would be able to help out more but we are praying for you. You will get through this! Lots of Love Kate & Yaz

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  6. Jana! Being all the way over here in Korea, this is the first I am hearing of this, and I'm just utterly shocked! I am so sorry you have this journey ahead of you, and I am praying for you and your family. It sounds like you have such an awesome support network in place and I know this is a dumb little thing, but I can help you with blog stuff if you want. I know how to do some stuff with blogger, or how to find people who will do fancy schmancy customization for you. I also have a bunch of fun pink digital scrapbooking stuff. Like I said... it's a small way that I can help. But I will be praying both that God will guide the doctors who are treating you, for healing, and also for you and your family to have patience, positive attitudes, and to be surrounded with God's love during this turbulent time. As I was reading this whole thing I kept thinking to myself... If anyone could go through this with GRACE and CLASS, it's Jana O'Niel... you'll be all fashioned up and promoting all the wonderful organizations, educating the people, standing as a true role model and survivor. Blessings, Lauren & family

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  7. PJ,
    Jen was a nurse on one of the oncology floors at Northwestern for several years. Along with excellent care,(check) she believes a strong support group like a good family and friends,(check) and a positive attitude are essential in beating any form of cancer.
    Our thoughts and well wishes are with Jana and your family.
    Regards,
    John & Jennifer (Audrey, Gabrielle, and Spencer)Smock

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  8. Hi Jana and PJ: Thanks for including us in your updates. We have no doubt your strong determination and family and friends support will get you through this as best as can be expected, and quickly! You're in our prayers and thoughts. see you soon.

    Reggie

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  9. PJ and Jana. This is your pal Wolo here. I just wanted to say that you have more support than you can imagine and we know you're going beat this terrible disease! There will be tough days and great days (coming from experience) but you're both too strong and cool to let you down.

    Love, Kent and Susanne

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  10. Dear Jana,
    We are thinking of you and want you to know we are here for you! If there is ANYTHING we can do to help your family through this please let us know...
    We are keeping you close in our hearts and prayers -
    xo
    Amy and Brian O'Keane

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  11. Dear Jana and PJ,

    We're thinking of you, PJ and Georgia and want to send a ton of good thoughts your way. With all that you are going through, thank you for keeping your friends updated and for your willingness to share your thoughts. We know that your strength, positive attitude and extensive surrounding support from family and friends will help get you through this. Our thoughts and prayers are with you- know that we are here for you and want to do anything we can to make your lives a little bit easier as your family tackles this together.

    Melissa and Ahmed

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  12. Hi Everyone:
    I wanted to let you know that I've created a google calender for the O'Neil's meals during Jana's surgery and treatment. I recommended to PJ to keep a cooler outside their front door where people can leave meals without bothering them. I've got the following people lined up for next week:

    Sunday - Milliman
    Monday - Weisberg
    Tuesday - Uihlein
    Wednesday - Nyland
    Thursday - Kisselle
    Friday - Cummings

    Link to Calendar:

    http://www.google.com/calendar/embed?src=5c40b39uu4gd5v3bhja32d1o9c%40group.calendar.google.com&ctz=America/Chicago

    Your friends can then add your Calendar ID to the Add a friend's calendar field in the calendar list on the left of their Google Calendar. Once they add the ID, your public calendar will appear in their calendar list.

    Thanks,
    Kara

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